This practice resource outlines some strategies to embed the development of executive function and self-regulation in your early childhood education and care setting.

Engage in sustained shared conversations with children

One way to develop executive function and self-regulation in children is to engage in 鈥榮ustained shared conversations鈥. states that sustained shared conversations are an important strategy for educators and teachers to employ. By asking children questions, educators can prompt children to explore their ideas in more depth. Educators can extend children鈥檚 thinking by working together to solve a problem, clarify an issue, evaluate learning experiences or extend a narrative. Opportunities for engaging in sustained shared conversations can occur throughout the day during routines, transitions, and planned and spontaneous experiences.

Strategies for engaging in sustained shared conversations with children aged 3 to 5 years are outlined in the following table. For examples of sustained shared conversations that develop children鈥檚 literacy and executive function and self-regulation skills, see literacy and numeracy resources.

StrategyQuestion stems to encourage conversationsExamples
Prompt children to
explain their thinking.

 
  • 鈥楬ow did you know 鈥?鈥
  • 鈥榃hy does this 鈥?鈥
  • 鈥榃hy do you think 鈥?鈥
  • 鈥榃hy can鈥檛 we 鈥?鈥
  • 鈥榃hat happens next?鈥
鈥業 can see you are a bit tired! Why do you think we yawn when we are tired? What else can you feel when you are tired?鈥欌
Help children to think through alternatives.
  • 鈥業 wonder what would
    happen if 鈥?鈥
  • 鈥榃hat is another way we could try 鈥?鈥

鈥業 can see you have tried to glue these 2 pieces together. They keep falling apart! What else can we use?鈥

[child鈥檚 response]

鈥業 like that idea. Let鈥檚 see if it is going to be strong
别苍辞耻驳丑.鈥

Encourage children to elaborate, recap and clarify ideas.
  • 鈥業 really want to know more about 鈥︹ 
  • 鈥楽o, you think that 鈥︹

鈥楾ell me more about what you did on the weekend.鈥

[child鈥檚 response]

鈥榃hy was that your favourite part?鈥

 

鈥業 can see how excited you are. I鈥檇 like to know more about your dance class. Tell me more.鈥

[child鈥檚 response]

鈥楾hat is fascinating! What are they called? What other moves did you practice?鈥

Offer suggestions to help children extend their ideas.
  • 鈥楥ould we try doing it this way 鈥?鈥
  • 鈥榃hat if you 鈥?鈥
  • 鈥業 find it useful when 鈥︹
  • 鈥楬ave you thought about trying 鈥?鈥

鈥業 see that you鈥檙e playing with the dinosaur in the sandpit. Do you think he is getting hot?鈥

[child鈥檚 response]

鈥楧o you have any ideas to help the dinosaur cool down?鈥

[child鈥檚 response]

鈥楢 swim would cool me down. Where can the dinosaur have a swim?鈥

Provide examples of how to problem-solve and model your thinking.
  • 鈥業 have to think hard about 鈥︹
  • 鈥業 need to 鈥︹ 
  • 鈥楩irst I will ... and then I will 鈥 and then I can ...鈥

鈥業 know things can get frustrating when they don鈥檛 go your way. When I get stuck, I like to take a big breath and then come back to it later.鈥

 

鈥極h dear, I can see that the kite is stuck in the tree. How do we get it back?鈥

[child鈥檚 response]

鈥業 don鈥檛 think that you are tall enough. How about we go to the shed to see if we have something that can reach that far.鈥

Show genuine interest and provide encouragement for further thinking.
  • 鈥楾hat鈥檚 an interesting idea!鈥
  • 鈥業 like what you have done.鈥
  • 鈥榊ou have thought really hard about 鈥 what can you do next?鈥

鈥業 think your sister is really going to like this card you made for her birthday!鈥

[child鈥檚 response]

鈥榃hat could we write in her card to wish her a happy day?鈥

Developing executive function and self-regulation throughout the day

Here are some examples of when you might build opportunities to develop executive function and self-regulation into different learning experiences and interactions throughout the day for children aged 3 to 5 years. These examples show how you may start a conversation and illustrate a pause where the child can engage and steer the conversation. 

Moments in the dayExample of how to build in executive
function and self-regulation
What this might sound like with children
Drop offGreet children and show an interest in their lives.

鈥楬i Freya! It鈥檚 nice to see you today. We missed you yesterday! I heard that you had fun at the zoo.鈥

[child鈥檚 response]

鈥楾ell me what you saw!鈥

Drop offUse this time to assist children with morning transition and separation from their family.

鈥業 can see you are upset today, would you like to tell me what happened?鈥

[child鈥檚 response]

鈥極h, I am sad to hear that your favorite truck broke on the way to the centre. Let鈥檚 see if we can find another one.鈥

[child鈥檚 response]

鈥業 know that Thanh is going to be arriving shortly; do you think you and he might like to play in the sandpit today?鈥

MealtimeUse mealtimes as opportunities for children to show their self-regulation skills.

鈥業 can see we are super hungry today! Let鈥檚 all go inside and wash our hands, and then we can set the tables for lunch.鈥

鈥榃hen we are eating, we need to sit properly on our chair. Remember you fell the other day and hurt your arm? That was quite painful wasn鈥檛 it?鈥

Planned and spontaneous experiencesHelp children name and understand feelings
through stories and events.

鈥楧amien鈥檚 dog ran away. How is he feeling?鈥

[child鈥檚 response]

鈥榊es, you can see that he is feeling sad! Lots of people cry when they are feeling sad, just like this boy. What do you do when you are feeling sad?鈥

[child鈥檚 response]

鈥榃hat do you think might help him feel better?鈥

Planned and spontaneous experiencesJoin in interactions to help children practise the
skills and strategies they have been learning.

鈥楽ure, I can be the child! If I am the child, who are you?鈥

[child鈥檚 response]

鈥極k! What would you like me to do to get ready?'

Planned and spontaneous experiencesAssist children in managing conflict or difficult situations and build their self-regulation skills.

鈥業 would be angry too, if someone hid my shoes. How about you tell Luca how you feel. What could you say?鈥

[child鈥檚 response]

鈥楶erhaps you can say, 鈥淚t makes me feel angry not knowing where my shoes are.鈥濃

Planned and spontaneous experiencesEnsure children have access to spaces to help
them self-regulate 鈥 such as a quiet space, cubby
or tent.
鈥業 noticed you came into the tent to get some quiet time. It鈥檚 great that you felt comfortable doing that.鈥
Planned and spontaneous experiencesAcknowledge children鈥檚 ability and effort.鈥榊ou have worked so hard building that sandcastle! I wonder what you are going to do next?鈥
Planned and spontaneous experiencesProvide opportunities for children to understand time and limits and how it may influence their feelings.

鈥楻emember, this experience is for 4 children only. That is why we have 4 chairs set up.鈥

[child鈥檚 response]

鈥業 can see how patiently you are waiting for your turn! Look, I have written down your name on the board, so when someone is finished they will come and get you.鈥

Planned and spontaneous experiencesSupport and role model strategies to help children overcome challenges.

鈥業 can see that you are trying really hard to make your marble run. It is really frustrating when something doesn鈥檛 work isn鈥檛 it?鈥

[child鈥檚 response]

鈥業 know you don鈥檛 want to give up. What would you like to do? Did you want to have another go or have a little break?鈥

Pick upProvide check-in with parents and primary caregivers, highlighting the skills their child is developing.

鈥極scar, tell mummy how you solved that tricky puzzle!鈥

[child鈥檚 response]

鈥楢nd what did you do next?鈥


Keywords: ECEC, child development, practice implementation